What is the meaning of life?

I’m asked many philosophical questions each day in my work.

I never know what someone will ask and how urgently they will need an answer.

The questions come frequently, relentlessly, earnestly.

How can I desire my partner again after ten years?

How do you know if they’re the one?

How do I know when it’s time to leave?

When will this heartbreak be over?

How do I make this pain stop?

How can I trust my partner again after They cheated?

How can I trust myself after I cheated?

How can I find my passion In life?

How can I love my body?

Clients don’t necessarily see these as philosophical, but I do.

They are essentially asking; What is love?

What is time?

What is trust?

What is faithfulness?

What is meaning?

What is connection?

My primary goal is to encourage curiosity in you, rather than a narrowing of the possibilities.

I encourage you to elicit, to value, to welcome the opportunity to explore the unknowing, to wade through the confusion, to learn to swim in the smog.

I create a safe container from which to ask questions you could never ask another, lastly yourself.

Through my drawing out of the questions, I build your resistance to be with the unknown.

From a fleeting thought, now we are exploring for 50 minutes, and now for weeks on end, now months.

You tell me how desperately you need to answer, and yet, in this journey, along the continuum of time, of breadth, of depth, of warrens, of mazes, of shapeless and formless unknowing, you too have learnt to sit with the unknowing as comfortable as I did when you first pressed me for an answer.

I can’t tell you anything direct;

You wouldn’t accept it anyway and it’s not what you want to hear.

I believe you want to be seen in your questioning, your resistance to the expected, your rage against the machine, the white dress, the monotonous and expected sex, and I welcome it.

Bring it.

Be angry here.

Be feminist here.

Be left of centre here.

Be the ‘difficult one’ here,

in this room,

in this space,

with me.

Ultimately, be the courageous one.

The one who asks.

The one who resists.

The one who challenges.

The one who says no, this isn’t enough life for me.

Be the courageous one.

I won’t tell anybody.