Barriers to your own healing
Are you getting in the way of your own healing?
This often happens when you:
Feel like you're stuck.
Find it hard to reach out for help.
Have been contemplating starting counselling or other support.
You go round and round and round with the same challenges, and can't find a way out.
Is that you?
The truth is, if you knew how to solve the problem you have, you would have done it. Even if you think you know what you need to do, there's a reason why you don't ever quite getting around to doing it.
Yet so many women experience this wall or block and don't reach out for the available help that's there, and as a therapist, I know some of the deeper reasons why this is.
Here are four main barriers to your own healing journey:
Shame: You're ashamed you're struggling, need support, or can't do it alone when you think you should be able to. Shame is a perceived judgment on your struggles and it doesn't have to be there. There's nothing unusual about needing support: We all do.
Ego: Your ego wants to keep up a facade that everything is ok and that there is no chink in your armor. Our ego helps to protect us, but when it shies away from acknowledging that we are human, it becomes unhealthy, You are not a robot that won't ever struggle, but your ego wants you to be one and admit defeat. Don't let your ego steer you away from support.
Vulnerability: You don't want to be vulnerable, share the hard stuff and face your inner softness. Yet it is precisely our vulnerability that lets us heal. We cannot talk ourselves out of our pain or ignore it. It will always be there until we tend to it when curiosity, gentleness and kindness. Sharing your vulnerability and being supported in a non-judgemental way makes you feel stronger than ever.
Denial: You are resisting acknowledging the unloved parts of you that you wish would just disappear forever. We all have parts of us we wish we could forget, didn't have to deal with or weren't part of our experience, yet these are beautiful parts of us.
I'd like you to remember that the hard parts make us dynamic, resilient, empathic and able to connect and feel for others.
Support allows you to learn to love, support and nurture them, rather than dismiss ignore and deny them, which doesn't help to heal them.
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Take care of you ,
Gabriella
