Dealing with your Inner Critic
Imagine if every day, you put the Inner Critic back in its place and took back control...
Inner critic, imposter, inner mean girl - whatever you call it - you do know what you want and who you are, it's just the Inner Critic is obsessed with keeping you in fear, encouraging you to blend into the crowd and follow what everyone else does. It doesn't like those brilliant, unique ideas you have.
Usually, we can't control the first unwanted thoughts we have. They tend to come in random, sporadic, compulsive and reactive ways.
The unwanted thought is often negative and can sound like:
'I think they hate me right now.'
'I look horrible today.'
'I'm such a failure.'
Usually that sets off a train of negative and hurtful train of thoughts that doesn't make you feel good. It ends up in worst case scenarios like:
'They're probably going to break up with me'
'No-one would ever find me attractive like this.'
'I'll lose my job over this mistake.'
Can you see how they're so fearful and negative?
The good news is we CAN take major control of our thoughts back,
with the RESPONSIVE thoughts we can have to those initial thoughts and fears.
We can either go along with them, believe them, think they're true and start to panic and feel bad about ourselves, or we can think critically, take some space from the first thought and CHOOSE to RESPOND differently with our next thoughts and bring in discernment and self-compassion.
The common problem my clients have when I am encouraging them to change their thought patterns is that they don't know what to say to themselves instead. They don't know what a kind, compassionate inner voice sounds like, so they feel stuck to change the thought patterns.
That's why I've created the ultimate FREE guide with 93 scripts of exactly what to say to regain control over your Inner Critic, from an experienced therapist. Take back control and build your confidence. Bye Bye Inner Critic!
I hope this helps you have 6 solid tools to respond to those nasty unwanted thoughts when they next arise, so that you can take charge and know what to do, how to support yourself and exactly what to say.
Warmest,
Gabriella
